Unlearning a Behavior Tarot Spread

With a little bit of self-awareness and a dash of honesty, we can all admit there is at least one behavior that we could stand to unlearn (but if we’re being totally honest, I’m sure we can all agree we have numerous!).

Some examples of behaviors you may want to unlearn to help improve the quality of your life:

• ignoring your intuition

• feeling guilty when doing fun activities (fear of not doing enough)

• people-pleasing

• workaholic

• self-doubt

• negative self-talk

• avoiding challenges or new experiences in fear of failure

• setting unrealistically high standards for yourself

• procrastination

• overthinking situations or outcomes

• measuring your worth or success against others

• shielding yourself from emotional openness or intimacy

• dwelling on past mistakes, regrets, or losses

• trying to micromanage situations, outcomes, or people

One of the best ways we can work to unlearn these behaviors is by doing their opposite or actively doing what we’re scared or avoidant of. And while engaging in those new behaviors, we may notice this judgment creeping in from the past, telling us we’re doing something wrong. It’s important to allow those thoughts to come in, to acknowledge them, and then to tell them they are no longer needed. It may take a few tries but after having that inner dialogue a few times the past behavior we’re trying to unlearn will slowly start to quiet down and fade away.